Learn the Secret of How to Being Happily Married For 60 Years.
My parents have been happily married for 60 years! I love this photograph of them. They say a picture is worth a thousand words and this one says so much about them. Yesterday, I went over to see them and bring them dinner.
During dinner I witnessed this precious exchange:
Mom: “I don’t feel good.”
Dad: “What can I do to make you feel better?”
Mom: “I don’t know, a hug I guess.”
Dad: “Well let’s get to it then.” He got up from his chair and pulled her up out of hers. He hugged her for a long time. She cried a little.
Dad: “Your a very special person, Diane.”
Mom: “No,… Why do you say that?”
Dad: “You gave me 4 wonderful children and lots of grandchildren.”
Mom: ” We’ve done all right haven’t we?”
I felt incredibly blessed and a little weepy witnessing this moment between my parents.
My father is in the early stages of Alzheimer’s and my Mother is experiencing dementia. I don’t know what the future will bring but today was a beautiful day.
After dinner we went for a walk. My parents playfully bantered like they always do,
Mom trying to boss him around and dad constantly teasing her.
Dad: “keep walking.”
Mom: “I can’t walk anymore.”
Dad: “just keep walking, I’m trying to extend your life.”
Mom: “ya well this walk is gonna kill me.”
Me: “How have you managed to stay happily married for 60 years?”
Dad: (with a chuckle) “You just stay married and do what you’re told!”
I pondered what he said.
“You Just Stay”…
It’s In The Staying;
The commitment to love through good, bad, triumph and trial.
It’s In The Yielding;
Not insisting to have your own way.
It’s In The Laughing;
Being silly and making light of what bugs you.
It’s In The Kindness;
Extending grace and compassion to your spouse.
Is it really that simple to be happily married for 60 years?
Yes, I think It just might be.
Lord, help us to have a greater capacity to lighten up, love deeply and give grace abundantly!